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Hello, I am Kedar.
Experienced “Ghostee”. Lifelong member. Veteran status.
What does that mean?
It means five (sometimes six, on a good hair day) out of every ten people I meet go from
Cheers!
to
Crickets!
Initial reactions? Glowing.
“You’re inspiring!”
“Let’s work together!”
“Big fan of your writing!”
“I love how you live your life!”
“You must meet my [insert important contact]!”
“Let’s talk tomorrow!”
“How soon can you start?”
“Why didn’t we meet earlier?”
“We must do this again!”
“Could you send a proposal over?”
And then? Silence.
No calls. No texts. No emails.
No response. Not even an emoji.
Or a block. For closure.
I’ve tried analysing it.
Maybe they were just being polite? Or am I deluded?
Maybe I am an a**h***. Maybe they are.
Maybe I said something weird? Did they sense something crazy?
Maybe I have BO? Or spinach in my teeth?
Maybe Mercury was in retrograde? Maybe it’s my aura?
But nope.
No pattern.
No logic.
No discernible reason.
Just poof.
For the last 40 years.
Fun fact: The word “Ghosting” is only 20-odd years old. Merriam-Webster added it in 2017. Could it be that someone I know invented it?
I wouldn’t be surprised.
Is it me?
Is it them?
Is this normal?
Am I normal?
Are they?
Anyone else out there with a PhD in Being Ghosted?
Asking for a friend. Who is also me.
Because it seems I am not alone.
Except no one talks about it.
At least not publicly.
But someone has to.
So, here I am.
Experienced “Ghostee”. Lifelong member. Veteran status.
Glad to meet you, potential ghoster.
